Liver soup.

Grocery shopping, I found myself in a discussion about whether we should, or should not buy some liver soup. I didn’t notice getting into that discussion, but that’s where I was. I have never eaten liver soup, wasn’t looking for any, it was not on my list, and I don’t think I know what liver soup might be other than the obvious, soup with liver in it, regardless, I didn’t want any but apparently I did.

My dear girlfriend insisted that she hated liver soup and if I wanted some that was ok but she wasn’t having any of it. We were having a disagreement but confusingly, we were both on the same side. Those are the toughest people to deal with, the ones who argue with you while agreeing.

Like you, I was wondering how this would end. The last thing I’d said was, “we need some soap, I like Lever Soap.” Which is true, I do like the hand soap made by Lever. My dear Colombian woman had heard “liver soup” not “Lever Soap” and was pretty vocal about how we didn’t need any of that stuff.

Here’s the thing. Long ago, I was married for 17 years to a disagreeable moody person who yelled at me clearly, in English and I understood everything she said. Our communication was excellent and our relationship was terrible. That ended poorly as we divorced.

Now many years later, I finally decide to get serious with a happy, easy going Colombian lady. I don’t understand most of what she says, I just say yes a lot. It works. We have some great times together, enjoy a peaceful life together, dance, laugh, entertain, - and frankly, - have no idea what the other is talking about.

My thinking is, you don’t need to communicate with other people. I suspect communication is where all the problems begin. If both people just shut up and focus on their relationship, things would be fine.

In management, you don’t need to communicate, you just need to do what’s right and do what’s next. Do what needs to be done and have the same goals. Don’t argue, don’t debate, don’t even have an idea, just move in the same direction together.
Liver soup, Lever soap, - that’s as close as we get to understanding but we have a fine life together. Funny how that is. Haven’t got a clue and we’re both happy about it.

Communication? Bahhh, humbug.
See you for breakfast,
Wolfgang

P.s. Communication does not include pushback. Debate and disagreement have somehow been lumped in with communication and that’s just not the case. Communication in the workplace about how to move the work ahead is critical. You need same goals, that’s very important.

P.s. To clarify, - we don’t want ideas other than implementation ideas. Execution ideas are the only good ideas. Get it done thinking, matters.

P.s. April we have our Time Management and Organization seminar. “How Cats Manage Their Time.” Have you ever seen a stressed cat? I don’t think so. Reserve and learn from your cat.